Can a 16-Year-Old Date? Benefits, Drawbacks & Guidelines

As a parent, it is your duty to provide encouragement and direction for your child as they navigate the difficult and intricate stages of life. The adolescent years can be especially demanding and may put the most level-headed of parents to the test.

Nothing quite prepares a parent for their teen dating. We know dating is a normal part of growing up; however, when did “grown up” become right now? What age is appropriate for my teen to start dating?

Can a 16-year-old date? Legally, it is permissible for a 16-year-old to date as 16 is the age of consent in many countries. Parents should evaluate their child’s maturity, ability to make responsible decisions, and the planned dating partner and destination before giving permission to date.

Dating might be legal and normal for a 16-year-old; however, the decision of whether your 16-year-old can and should be dating falls to your family to decide.

The thought of your teen dating can be unnerving. There are tips, guidelines, and boundaries that you can enforce to ensure your teen is being safe, communicative, and respectful during their teen dating experiences. Let’s review.

You’re 16-Year-Old and Dating: What To Know

As uncomfortable or scary as it may feel to consider your teen with a romantic dating life, it is important to keep in mind that it is a normal and necessary part of your teen’s social-emotional development.

According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, females begin dating as early as 12 1/2 and males a year later. 

Should a 16-Year-Old Date?

When considering if your 16-year-old is ready to date or not, consider factors including maturity, responsibility level, ability to make smart choices, and the age of the other person.

You should create limits that keep your teen safe while providing you with peace of mind.


Talk to your teen and take note of how your teen reacts to the discussion. The discussion can be embarrassing or uncomfortable, but if your teen isn’t able to have a conversation, they aren’t ready to be dating.


If your teen pushes boundaries and is secretive or dishonest, they are not ready to be dating. If they cannot follow rules or complete tasks or chores, they are not ready.

Decision Making

If your teen is unable to make decisions for themselves or is easily a victim of peer pressure, dating should be postponed for a year or two.

Age of Partner

You want to ensure your teen is safe when dating. Part of dating safety is the age and character of their partner.

The person they are wanting to date should be within the legal ages of consent and should respect your family values, morals, and guidelines. 

Date Destination

Is the date a one-on-one or a group date? Where will this date take place? Ask all of the questions, and ensure you are getting honest answers.

For example: If the date is dinner and a movie, where are they having dinner? What movie and theater? Set a curfew and check-in times.

Chaperone or Supervision

The amount of supervision or chaperoning will depend on the maturity and responsibility level of your teen. Offering some privacy and independence based on maturity/responsibility level is a great first step in your teen’s dating experience.

Rules for your teen should be based on behavior, not age. There should be strict safety guidelines, open communication, and honesty between parties.

It’s important to talk to your teen about all dating topics, including personal values, expectations, peer pressure, respect, and beliefs about sexual activity.

Benefits Of Teenage Dating

Early dating is an opportunity for a teen to work on life skills. Through dating, they will develop skills in areas including communication, thoughtfulness, intimacy, and independence.

Positive early dating experiences can be linked to self-esteem, independence, social support, and self-worth. 

By experiencing healthy relationships and having an open, positive dialogue with their families, they are more likely to maintain healthy adult relationships in the future. 

Disadvantages Of Teenage Dating

Four momentous disadvantages of teen dating include maturity, identity, heartbreak, and stress. Negative experiences during early dating can be linked to low self-esteem, co-dependence, and lack of self-worth. 

Teens are still figuring out who they are and who they want to become. Teens can often get lost in a significant other’s identity in attempts to be wanted.

The added stress of maintaining another’s happiness and a relationship can cause teens to lose focus/interest in school or extracurricular activities.

With first relationships come first heartbreaks. Teens who are dating will inevitably be challenged by impulse control, sexual intimacy, and the urge to push boundaries. 

Setting Guidelines For Teenage Dating

Like most parents, you are probably unnerved by the mere thought of your teen dating. To create an environment to keep your teen safe, you must establish rules and guidelines. Some types of guidelines you should set include:

  • Enforce a curfew
  • Meet your teen’s date
  • Communicate
  • Know where your child is going, who they are going with, and what their plans are. You can use tracking apps to track your teen while they are out. 
  • Follow up after the date

For a full and in-depth look into what guidelines to set and how to set them up check out this resource.

Stages Of Teenage Dating

Stages of teenage dating are universally the same.

  • The Crush: Innocent infatuation and flirting
  • Talking Phase: reciprocated interest, talking to one another or about one another
  • Honeymoon Phase: Going on dates, holding hands, really enjoying each other’s company
  • The Burnt-Out Phase: The honeymoon phase is over, drama and insecurities trickle in
  • Break-Up: Some breakups are full of drama; in others, the relationship just ends and all parties remain friends.

Teen relationships are usually relativity quick, intense, and confusing. By establishing a safe and open line of communication with your teen, you can support your teen through all phases of their relationship.

A teenage boy presenting flowers to a teen girl.

Acceptable and Unacceptable Teenage Relationships

You and your teen must identify acceptable and unacceptable relationships.

Acceptable Teenage Relationships

An acceptable relationship consists of trust, maintaining a self of identity, and no pressures to do unwanted things, including sexual activity or intimacy.

Acceptable relationships are also supportive of friendships and relationships with family. Acceptable relationships demonstrate respect and bring a person joy.

Unacceptable Teenage Relationships

An unacceptable relationship consists of verbal, physical, or emotional abuse; extreme highs and lows; jealousy; isolation; control; anxiety; and unhappiness.

How Long Do Teenage Relationships Last?

Teen relationships can last anywhere from days to years. Age is one factor that directly affects the duration of a relationship.

According to Youth Development Specialist Dr. Kate Fogarty:

“Teens, 12 – 14 usually stay together for a shorter time (less than 5 months) while teens 15 – 17 can stay together for over 2 years.”

Parental relationships can also affect how long your teenager’s relationship lasts. If the parents’ relationship is healthy and positive, the likelihood that the teen’s relationship is healthy and long lasting increases. 

Related Questions:

How Many Teenage Relationships Last Until Marriage?

The percentage of teenage relationships that last until marriage is a tiny 2%. Typically, the average length of a high school romance is 6 months to a year.

Is 16 Too Young To Drive?

Statistically, driving is one of the most dangerous things a teen can do. The human brain is not fully developed until 25 years old. Many believe that a 16-year-old is too immature and their brain too undeveloped to drive.

Others think that driving at 16 allows teens time to develop a strong foundation, knowledge base, and experience of driving to be the most successful adult drivers, making 16 the most opportune time for teens to drive.

Final Thoughts:

To quote Elizabeth Stone, “Making the decision to have a child – it is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart going walking around outside of your body.”

The thought of allowing your teen to date, to have their hearts depending on another – is terrifying. Being a parent is nothing short of terrifying joy.

Set guidelines and boundaries. Communicate with your teen, and be a good role model for relationships. By being involved and giving your teen the tools for success, you are setting them up for a positive dating experience.