Fertility paths can be difficult and isolating experiences for some couples. They may face the most demanding challenges in their journey.
If you are struggling in your fertility journey, sometimes your own thoughts can be your worst enemy.
We often put words in our minds that tear us down and make our journeys worse instead of filling our hearts with words that will motivate and encourage us.
If the words in your head are another battle you are fighting, try replacing them with some of these inspirational and motivational words.
They have the potential to help you make the most of your journey and continue fighting, even when it seems like there is nothing more you can do.
1. “And you begin again and sometimes you lose, sometimes you win, but you begin again.” – Barry Manilow
Struggling with infertility can seem like a never-ending battle. Every time you try again, the uncertainty of the outcome looms in your mind, and sometimes that can be enough to make you not want to try again.
However, there is true strength in trying and beginning again. Regardless of the outcome, the action of starting again is the demonstration of pure strength and hope, and ultimately, it is the true victory.
2. “Even Miracles Take a Little Time” – Fairy Godmother, Cinderella
In my mind, a miracle is a miracle because of the struggle behind it. If we always got what we wanted right away, we wouldn’t learn how to value and cherish the gifts and blessings that eventually come our way.
3. “It always seems impossible until it’s done.” – Nelson Mandela
There are many hard things in life that seem impossible to overcome. Saving money. Losing weight. Changing bad habits. The only way to prove that it is possible is by pushing through and doing it.
When you come out on the other side, you will look back and realize that it wasn’t impossible, and you will also see the stronger version of yourself that didn’t give up, pushed through adversity, and made it happen.
4. “Forget all the reasons it won’t work and believe the one reason it will.” – Anonymous
Why is it always our first instinct to focus on the negative? Why do we set ourselves up that way?
When I was pregnant with my twins, I seemed to find every story on the internet that proved to me I would lose one (or both) of my babies or that something would go wrong in my pregnancy/delivery.
Those stories drowned out the existence of the other millions of healthy twins out there. Do not let the negative statistics invalidate the positive ones. There is power in hope and positive vibes.
5. “We have nothing if not belief.” – C.S. Lewis
Everything we have stems from one thing: belief in ourselves and belief in others.
6. “Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.” – Anonymous
Have you ever heard the phrase “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take”? The same thing applies here.
Failures happen, but they aren’t definite. You can try and try again until you succeed. Doubt, however, can create a permanent failure and keep you from realizing something great.
When you let doubt keep you from trying again, you will never succeed, and that dream you were trying to reach will certainly die.
7. “If you can’t stop thinking about it, don’t stop working for it.” – Michael Jordan
I am a firm believer that we have things on our minds and hearts for a reason. We work harder for and believe more in the things that are important to us.
If something is weighing heavily on your mind or heart, it is obviously important to you, and your heart or mind isn’t satisfied yet. Therefore, it isn’t time to give it up.
8. “It’s hard to wait around for something you know might never happen; It’s even harder to give up when you know it’s everything you want.” – Anonymous
It’s a hard battle that can feel like a double-edged sword, but at the end of your journey, you will feel better when you can say that you truly gave it everything you had and never gave up.
9. “Whatever the struggle, continue the climb. It may be only one step to the summit.” – Diane Westlake
You truly never know if the next time will be the time. The time you succeed. The time you get what you want.
10. “Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat.” – F. Scott Fitzgerald
This is one of the biggest mistakes that we can make. Giving up too soon after a few failed attempts is what often keeps us from accomplishing great things or reaching our most-wanted goals in life.
11. “We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.” – Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
Failures, setbacks, and disappointment will come our way. Whether on your fertility journey or any other path in life, you must learn to see those things as they are: a bump in the road that is meant to be climbed over.
They are not the end. Keep your focus on the bigger picture and your end goal.
12. “Don’t expect everyone to understand your journey, especially if they’ve never had to walk your path.” – Anonymous
A lot of women I know who struggle with infertility say that they feel alone. I think I know why.
Even though many people will struggle with infertility in their lifetime, no two cases are exactly the same because no two people are the same. Everyone feels and hurts differently.
While you should lean on others for support, remember that they have never been where you are. They will try to help you the best they know how, but ultimately it is your strength that needs to get you through.
13. “The struggle is part of the story.” – Anonymous
What plot doesn’t have a conflict? There is no such thing! Conflict is what makes a plot good and meaningful.
It is in moments of struggle that true growth and learning happen, both of which are necessary for a happy ending.
There is no victory without failure and no triumph without disappointment. Opposition in all things is necessary for growth, learning, and happiness.
14. “Hope is the only thing stronger than fear.” – Robert Ludlum
The only thing that can truly stomp fear is conquering that fear. How do you do that? By never giving up. What do you need to do that? Hope.
15. “Let your hopes, not your hurts, shape your future.” – Robert H. Schuller
It can be easy to let our pain dominate our lives, but I can assure you that this is no way to happiness. Instead, let your hopes create a brighter world for you to live in.
16. “I was taught the way of progress is neither swift nor easy.” – Marie Curie
Progress takes time and effort. Without it, you’re just moving from point A to point B with no real growth or value to your movements.
17. “You always pass failure on your way to success.” – Mickey Rooney
Ask anyone who has reached a goal or become successful to tell you how they got there.
You will always find that they failed before they succeeded. Also, how do you know you’ve succeeded until you’ve experienced failure?
18. “You never know how strong you are until being strong is your only choice.” – Bob Marley
You would be amazed at how much you are capable of and the power within you when you have nothing else to rely on except your own strength.
19. “A grateful heart is a magnet for miracles” – Jane Fuller
I have a dear friend who has been battling cancer for years, but you would never know of her struggles based on her attitude and perspective.
I’ve never heard her complain about her circumstances. Every time the medical outlook is bad, a miracle happens, and she pulls through.
I attribute this to her grateful and optimistic heart. Gratitude really might be the best medicine.
20. “A strong woman looks a challenge dead in the eye and gives it a wink.” – Gina Carey
Now tell me that doesn’t just make you feel like a BA that can take on the world.
You are a FIGHTER full of STRENGTH. Whether it is infertility or any other challenge you may be facing, it doesn’t deserve to take away your confidence and happiness.
So, read that quote a few times over, put on some Shania Twain, and knock that challenge down.
21. “Sometimes the struggle is what makes success even sweeter.” – Anonymous
While it seems counterintuitive, a hard battle with a lot of struggle does make the final triumph that much better.
Not only have you reached your goal, but you have the satisfaction of looking back at everything you had to overcome in order to get there and the strength you gained from it all.
It makes the end prize a million times more valuable because you earned it and poured a lot of heart, sweat, and tears into it. It now has ties to it that are more personal, which make it worth cherishing a lot more.
22. “I am learning to trust the journey even when I do not understand it.” – Mila Bron
It is so hard being on the front side of a challenge and having to walk through it blindly, not knowing why you must endure it.
Sometimes the understanding comes when you get to the other side, but sometimes it never does, and that is okay. This is a hard step to take in any journey, especially a fertility journey.
This means accepting what might not be and continuing to move forward with trust and hope that everything happens for a reason and that what you are enduring is meant to, somehow, make you into the person you were destined to become.
23. “The greater the storm, the brighter the rainbow.” – Anonymous
The harder the struggle, the more beautiful the reward will be. It’s like the hardest storms in life are simply to set us up to appreciate the beautiful things waiting for us just ahead.
24. “Just because your path is different doesn’t mean you’re lost.” – Gerard Abrams
It can be easy to compare yourself to others, especially when it comes to the timing of big events like having a child.
When your journey is different or seems harder than everyone else’s, it doesn’t mean that you are doing something wrong or headed in the wrong direction. It just means that you are creating your own beautiful story.
25. “What feels like the end is often the beginning.” – Anonymous
When one door closes, another opens. It sounds cliché, but it is true. We get so sad when we feel like a story is ending, but we do not realize that one story must end for another to begin.
Usually, the next beginning is a lot better than what we thought was the end.
Closing Thoughts
I hope this was helpful and that you were able to find some words that resonated with you and filled your empty cup, even just a little.
As you take these words and put them into action, you will see your entire journey change for the better. Keep fighting — you got this!
Charlynn is an educator and mom to fraternal boy/girl twins. She loves learning through the experiences she has with her littles and using her knowledge to help other moms as they embark on the journey of motherhood.